Going from two opinions to one can be a bit overwhelming. Some Stress scales rate losing one’s spouse 100 points. Divorce is a 73, and separation is 65. I know everyone rates everything at this time, but, whether you are a strong personality of not so strong, losing that significant other can prove to be extremely difficult. Almost every research shows that becoming mindful of all of our senses helps to reduce stress. Looking at pictures with great memories, Deep breathing such as in through your nose, count to three, out through your mouth count to three. Listening to peaceful, calming music. One site suggested tightening and releasing all of your muscles to help your body release stress. I like to do a power relax where I think of my favorite place, and everything that helps me stay calm.
But sometimes it’s just nice to talk with that neutral person. It helps to vent and hear our thoughts come to life. I am stubborn and private and I realize one of the most difficult things for me is admitting that I am sad. I used to think that made me weak but now I realize that is what gives me strength. The Mayo Clinic has an interesting site with tips to relieve stress.
Always remember the sole soul is never truly alone when we know how to find resources.